If you can find it in yourself to forgive then you are no longer chained to the perpetrator.
The cancer of our souls and the devastation of nations, families, and individuals, find its roots in bitterness and unforgiveness.
Archbishop Desmond Tutu did some important work in this area with The Forgiveness Project. He later comments:
However, when I talk of forgiveness I mean the belief that you can come out the other side a better person. A better person than the one being consumed by anger and hatred. Remaining in that state locks you in a state of victimhood, making you almost dependent on the perpetrator.